Ho, ho, ho! It’s that time of year again, and while some of us may be feeling excited, others can’t wait for it to be over.
Christmas means different things to different people. Hopefully, no matter where you are or who you’re with, you’ll enjoy Christmas.
Yet it seems to be the time of year when, for one reason or another, we find ourselves at odds with others when we least expect it.
So, here are 5 tips you can practice to make your Christmas more harmonious.
What’s that saying about choosing friends but not family. There’s nothing you can do about who your family members are. In fact, it’s no accident! Though it may appear random, it’s not. Your family members are people with whom you have deep spiritual ties from the past.
Accept them for who they are and it will come back to you. You don’t know the whole picture because you can’t see the past, but it’s no accident, so do your best just to go with the flow.
Remember, everyone’s doing the best they can! If they could do it better, they would.
2. No judgement
This can be a tough practice at the best of times but at Christmas our judging gene goes into overdrive. Who got what and why didn’t I get one too?
If they give me what I want they love me. If they don’t . . . well, you know where that line of thinking will take you!
So if your sister gets a ticket to Adele from a favourite Aunt and you only get an oil burner (when you’d kill (almost) for the Adele ticket) accept it. It is what it is.
When you argue with the reality of what is you’ll always come off second best.
3. Stay in your hoop
Or if you prefer, mind your own business. It sounds rude I know but it’s meant with the best of intentions. Christmas is the time when we see those long lost relatives and catch up on the latest news and gossip. It’s also a time when healthy boundaries can be a life saver.
As long as it’s in a positive vein, no problem. But if Aunt Mary and Uncle Charles are giving each other a hard time, I urge you to stay out of it. It’s not easy I know, but if you leave them to it they might just work it out. Or not. None of your business.
An argument between two people only gets bigger if you add a third.
4. No expectations
Christmas is a time when expectations are at a peak.
You hope they remember you do/don’t eat chocolate, do/don’t like books etc.
However, if you have no expectations then you won’t be disappointed.
You have done your best with the presents you’ve bought. If they don’t like them it’s a lack of gratitude on their part. You’ve done your best, so leave them too it
And this brings us to what is undoubtedly the most important aspect of all when it comes to creating harmony, within and without – Gratitude!!
If you get the same thing you got last year, thank you. If you get a present you don’t like, thank you.
Being grateful is a game changer. Expressing gratitude and being grateful for whatever happens is powerful and can change a negative into a positive in a flash.
In the end . . .
Just be yourself and enjoy what’s put in front of you. You’re only there to sweep your side of the street, as they say. If you need to, leave them to it and take a break. Go for a walk or watch TV, whatever you need to do for yourself, do it.
Truth is we can’t change others and we’re not here to do so. But we can change ourselves, our perspective of what’s happening, if we’re willing to take a few moments to practice the above.
Oh, one more thing, a very Merry Christmas to you all.