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How to handle negative thoughts

Thinking influences our emotions, positive thoughts generating positivity, negative thoughts creating the same.

For the most part, thoughts arrive unbidden, they are automatic. They seem to topple out of nowhere and sure enough, the emotions follow, some less welcome than others.

But it’s the uncomfortable or fearful thoughts which cause the most trouble.

Resistance makes it worse

There’s a Japanese proverb which says “Good and ill luck are interwoven like the strands of a rope.”

Good thoughts pass, bad thoughts pass. That’s life.

However, when we resist the negative ones, life becomes a daily struggle. Small wonder we feel fearful or depressed.

As the saying goes, what you resist persistes. To be happy you need to go with the flow.

So here’s a few suggestions to consider in the future.

Question what your thinking 

The ego will deceive, so learn to question what it’s saying.

Just because you think a thought doesn’t make it true.

For instance, a friend ignores you. You start thinking they don’t like you or you’ve done something to offend them. Do you have proof to back this up?

They didn’t smile or weren’t as friendly as usual. So what, that doesn’t mean it’s got anything to do with you.

They might have received bad news or were deep in thought and didn’t see you.

Unless they specifically say they’ve got an issue with you, ignore it.

We create a lot of unnecessary damage in our relationships by acting on distorted perceptions we have about ourselves, others, or circumstances.

Accept what comes to you

What is, is!

Don’t waste time fighting your thoughts. IT’S NOT HELPFUL! The more you try to push negativity away, the more power you give it.

What starts off as small and insignificant ends up a huge, overwhelming scenario. Most of the drama in our heads is nonesense and has never eventuated, true?

Accept what’s happening, it is what it is. The more you accept life as it is, the happier you’ll be.

Learn to breathe through the drama

Sit with your feelings quietly, without judging them, and allow the thoughts to pass, as you breathe slow, deep breaths from your abdomen.

Breathing in this manner helps to re-establish emotional balance, bringing you back to the present moment.

In the present, everything’s okay. The drama is usually from an imagined past or future event. In the present moment everything is fine.

As you learn to sit with uncomfortable feelings, without judging them, they become less of a problem. If you give them five star service, they’ll never leave.

A higher source is always available

Whatever you call your higher power, Spirit, the Divine, when you ask it for help, help comes, every time!

Taking the form of inner guidance, inspiration, or intuition, you get a nudge telling you to do this, that, or the other.

You take action and it changes, and you know you’ll be okay. You realise you’re being taken care of, that you’re not alone.

What begins as a negative experience becomes a learning opportunity to connect to your true Self, your higher wisdom, a Power to which you’re always connected.


We are all bound to the throne of the Supreme Being by a flexible chain which restrains without enslaving us. The most wonderful aspect of the universal scheme of things is the action of free beings under divine guidance.
~  Joseph de Maistre


Photo Credit: Werner Vermaak

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