In this article we’re going to look at how thinking influences emotions, positive thinking generating positive emotions, negative thoughts giving rise to negativity.
For the most part, this double act arrives unbidden. They are automatic.
We don’t decide “now I’m going to think this or feel that.” Thoughts topple out of nowhere and emotions follow, some less welcome than others.
Still, it’s the uncomfortable or fearful emotions which are the most difficult to cope with.
Life is ups and downs
There’s a Japanese proverb which says “Good and ill luck are interwoven like the strands of a rope.”
Good times pass, bad times pass. That’s life.
If you want to be happy it’s important to learn to go with the flow.
Whatever’s happening is meant to be happening!
Yet if what’s happening doesn’t fit our plans, we resist, and life becomes a daily struggle with reality. Small wonder then that we feel depressed or anxious.
So, I’ve listed a few ideas you might like to consider in the future.
Learn to question your thoughts
The ego mind or false self will deceive you, so learn to gently question what it’s saying.
Just because you think a thought doesn’t make it true.
For instance, a friend ignores you. You start thinking they don’t like you or you’ve done something to offend them. Do you have proof to back this up?
They didn’t smile or weren’t as friendly as usual. So what, that doesn’t mean it’s got anything to do with you.
They might have received bad news or were deep in thought and didn’t see you.
Unless they say they’ve got an issue with you, ignore your thoughts.
Unnecessary damage occurs in our relationships by taking action on the lies we tell ourselves.
Accept what comes to you
What is, is! Don’t waste time fighting your negative thinking. IT’S NOT HELPFUL! The more you try to push negativity away, the more power you give to it.
What starts off as a small, insignificant thought, ends up as a huge, overwhelming scenario, and it’s all nonsense! Most of the drama in our heads has never eventuated, true?
Accept what comes to you and learn to live life as it is. The more you stand back and allow life and the people in it to just be, the happier you’ll be.
Breathe through the drama
Learn to sit with your feelings quietly, without judging them, allowing the thoughts to pass, and breathe, slow, deep breaths from your abdomen.
Breathing in this manner helps to re-establish emotional balance.
Everything’s okay. Usually, the drama is from an imagined past or future event. In the present moment everything is fine.
Learn to sit with your uncomfortable feelings. Simply let them be, without judging.
As you learn to do this, the uncomfortable will become more comfortable as time passes.
Help from a higher source is always available
Call it Spirit or the Divine, when you ask for help, it comes, every time!
Taking the form of inner guidance, inspiration, or intuition, you get a nudge telling you to do this, that, or the other.
You take action and it changes, and you know you’ll be okay. You realise you’re being taken care of, that you’re not alone.
So what begins as a negative experience becomes a a learning opportunity to connect to your true Self, your source of higher wisdom and Power to which you’re always connected.
We are all bound to the throne of the Supreme Being by a flexible chain which restrains without enslaving us. The most wonderful aspect of the universal scheme of things is the action of free beings under divine guidance.
~ Joseph de Maistre
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