I think one of life’s most difficult lessons has been to learn that my relationship with you depends on the one I have with myself.
When I experience genuine love and acceptance of myself, it just flows out to others and feels natural and right and oh so good!!
But . . . if I’m not loving me, I’ve got nothing for you. I can fake it for a while but sooner or later you’re going to know. You’re going to feel it.
Learning to love yourself, accepting what you find, warts and all, is a tough journey.
It requires self honesty about who you are and how you got here, as well as real acceptance of what you find. That’s the hard part.
We think knowing ourselves is about our favourite books, the clothes we like to wear, favourite colours, TV programs or movies we like to watch. But that’s just stuff.
Knowing who you are within, at a deeper level, that’s the part you need to know.
We have many aspects, light and dark. There’s the part of us which knows what’s true, and then there’s the shadow side which tells us lies.
The part that tells you you’re not good enough. That’s a lie.
It’s not true. It’s because you’ve bought into your head rather than your heart.
Head versus Heart
For instance, if you listen to your mind, the ego mind, you’ll compare yourself to others and find yourself wanting.
You are you. You can only compare yourself to who you were yesterday, last week, or a year ago.
Your heart knows this. Your heart is wise, compassionate and loving. Your heart knows you’re doing your best, in all circumstances.
How many times do you beat yourself up because you don’t know what you don’t know?
The learning is in front of you, not behind.
When I was a little girl I remember sitting in a maths class and the teacher announced a new topic, algebra, I think. I nearly died, my first thought was “But I don’t know algebra!!!”
Of course not. I was there to learn but I thought I should already know.
I’ve received many lessons in life this way, thinking I should know beforehand.
Let me tell you, that’s not the way to self love. When I make a mistake today, I learn, and work on not judging myself.
Which leads me into the next aspect of loving yourself, judging.
Learn to stop judging
It’s one of the biggest steps towards self love. And when you stop judging yourself, you’ll naturally stop judging others. We dont’t know what our journey is, nor that of others.
Your heart is watching. Your true self thirsts for your affection and knows when you’re loving you and when you aren’t.
When love for yourself is genuine, vibrations of joy and happiness are emitted and everyone feels it’s benefits.
It’s a practice, learning to love ourselves. So go easy on yourself, and remember, you’re doing the best you can!