I moved house recently and decided to follow the Marie Kondo method on how to declutter your possessions. A Japanese woman who teaches the art of being tidy, she also emphasises the importance of gratitude in her approach.
She suggests putting the items in a pile and then selecting them one at a time, considering whether or not it sparks joy in you. If it does, keep it, and if it doesn’t, offer gratitude for the use it’s given you and let it go.
I didn’t realise how powerful this would be until I actually did it.
Becoming minimalist is a trend catching on at present and I can see why.
Although I’d lived in a small space, I had no idea how many things I’d collected to be used ‘one day’. There were books I’d have time to read, one day. The clothes I’d fit into, one day. The bags and bags of paper information I’d collected but would need, one day!
Well, the ‘one day’ didn’t happen so it was time to part with it all.
And now I’m in a larger space with fewer possessions and the overall feeling is one of order and calm. There’s no outer distraction, if that makes sense. Everything has a place and even though this home is larger than the previous one, I have empty space, which creates a feeling of peace.
The inner closet
This prompted my thinking about the closet within our minds, in which we store old beliefs, wounds, and hurts, stuffed in there, year after year, gathering dust.
What if we took them out one by one, examined them, reflected upon them; are they still working for us? Do they inspire joy within? Or is it time to offer gratitude for the lessons we learnt from them and let them go.
In my home I notice now that everything I have, every object, every picture, every book and piece of furniture has a purpose has a use. Some of the objects have several uses even.
There is no longer anything in this home that is not useful, except for a few sentimental items such as photos, cards, letters, all safely ordered and within easy access.
The house feels calm and clear. There is no clutter and this exudes a sense of peace.
So, if this is what decluttering our home feels like, imagine going inside our mind to the closets that are full of all those old angers and resentments that happened years ago, but they’re still taking up room in our head.
As a very good friend of mine once said “Never let anyone live rent free in your mind”.
Imagine what might happen if we clear those closets out and make room for new things to come.