Hands up those of you who’ve never made a mistake.
Ah. . . I don’t see any hands.
Great, because it’s the truth. We’re all human and we all make mistakes. It’s written into the life script, so there’s no avoiding them.
It also means there’s nothing to be afraid of when mistakes show up.
Mistakes are the means by which we grow
They are fundamental to our evolution and yet we continually give ourselves a hard time over mistakes. We use self-judgment to beat ourselves up repeatedly, succeeding only in adding fuel to an already roaring fire.
A little trivia here – I saw the word mistake written as mis-take once, as in camera, action, roll talk. Apparently, the more mis-takes, the better the shot. Something to think about.
I must get it right
This whole mistake thing occurred to me while I was looking after my grandson. I realised I was doing things differently to how I’d done them with his mother.
Maybe it’s a grandmother thing but I felt relaxed and playful in his company, taking the route of just ‘letting things flow’. This was very different to the ‘I must do it perfectly’ mindset I had all those years ago.
Yet, as I found myself experiencing a twinge of regret for the past, I was suddenly struck by the thought that I couldn’t have done it any other way. Even if I’d wanted to back then – I didn’t know how!
It was a WOW! moment, let me tell you.
All those years I berated myself for getting it wrong, when in actual fact I couldn’t have done it any better at the time. I lacked the wisdom and experience that I’ve gained today through learning from the mistakes *smile*.
The benefit of hindsight
People often talk about hindsight being a wonderful thing but it’s called that for a reason. You don’t know what you don’t know. You learn through having a go, making mistakes, and correcting yourself. True?
Years later you say to yourself “If only I’d done that differently”, when in reality you only had the knowledge and experience you had at the time.
You learn as you grow. That’s all you have to do.
If, as you’re reading this, you’re giving yourself a hard time for past mistakes then please, STOP! It’s a waste of time and it’s called judging you. It isn’t helpful.
Now that you know
Do your best with the knowledge and understanding you’re gaining along the way.
Those people who seem to know more than you learned the same way you are now. There’s no secret to it. They’ve simply made mistakes and come to the understanding that in the getting of wisdom, making mistakes count.
As you learn, you move on to the next lesson and the next.
The famous Arthur Conan Doyle wrote, “It is easy to be wise after the event.”
With that thought in mind, learn to see your mistakes for what they are, stepping stones to a higher understanding of who you are and what life’s about.
Have faith in yourself and trust that everything that’s happening is exactly as it should be – because it is!
Experiences to share? We’d love to hear them in the comments below.