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You can grow spiritually through relationships

In learning to nurture a spiritual outlook on life it’s important to accept every situation put in front of us, without judging ourselves or getting negative.

In doing so we’ll come to understand that everything has a higher purpose, and that opportunities for inner growth are everywhere.

To highlight this I’d like to share a personal story with you.

Over the last few months I’ve had the opportunity to participate in a short online relationship. Although friendly and attentive, he wasn’t the one!

However, being the one wasn’t the point of the exercise at all.

It was an answer to a prayer

For some time now I’ve been asking for guidance around changes I can make in order to have more loving relationships, and this brief liaison gave me with the opportunity to reflect on what those changes might be.

I was amazed to find that as the relationship progressed, I was learning things about myself of which I was previously unaware.

Have you seen the movie Runaway Bride?

The first time I saw the movie I totally identified with the Julia Roberts character. Towards the end of the movie Richard Gere finds her in the kitchen making numerous egg dishes. When he asks her why, she tells him that with every man she’d ever been with, if they liked eggs a particular way then she’d say she did too.

But in truth she had no idea what she really liked.

That was me, right there!

In the past I’d a tendency to ‘sell out’ Deb. An ardent people pleaser, if you liked something, I liked it too. I didn’t, not always, but I lacked the power to be true to myself.

It came as a pleasant surprise when I noticed that throughout this affair I stayed true to who I am and what I believe.

I wasn’t in it alone

By maintaining a strong connection to my True Self (or Soul) throughout, at NO time did I place the person, my desire, or the relationship before what I believed was God’s direction for me.

I followed the guidance, asking for clarity or help when necessary, and the reward’s been fantastic.

I’ve learned about my hidden attitude towards love in a manner that just wouldn’t have been possible without this person entering my life as he did.

To be honest, when he first appeared my instinct was to run. I could so easily have said NO to the experience. Instead I recognised it for what it was – an opportunity to learn.

Relationships can provide vital spiritual growth

The awareness that I’m being guided by a power and wisdom greater than my own is becoming obvious to me, and when I follow what’s put in my path and go with the flow, unimaginable things happen!

Yet if I’d relied on myself, given the same circumstances, it would have been a completely different story. Relying on human understanding alone, I’d have judged myself in a not so loving fashion.

Therefore, as we learn to live from our higher self, we grow. Then, situations such as these become opportunities for growth and connection rather than separation and fear.

In this space we have choice. To choose negativity and fear through self judgment, or to take the higher approach, a spiritual approach which gives us the opportunity for happiness, regardless of the circumstances.

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